5 Rules to Help you handle your Child’s Behavior

5 Rules to Help you

handle your Child’s Behavior

Is your child being disrespectful? Are you witnessing behaviors such as cursing, yelling, arguing, ignoring you, and refusing requests? Now is the time for you to wake up. Wake up and get into action of controlling the situation before it becomes out of your hands. Set limits and control them. This decision takes time so be patient. Don’t expect your child’s behavior to change directly after once you change how you respond to your kid’s disrespectful behavior.

Does your child ignore consequences?

When your child starts developing disrespectful behavior then this can usually mean that your child is having difficulties in problem-solving skills and lack knowledge on how to be respectful and have limits. Kids usually think they know what they are doing and most of the time with kids are separated from their parents they will start acting wrong until they know what’s right. A parent’s job is to make sure their child is respectful until they grow up.

You can decide to parent differently at any point in your life, so when you think a change is needed you can manage it whenever you have to. An examples of setting rules and limits would be if your child asks to stay up late and you said “no” because among other things, the next day he has school, and didn’t finish his homework. He might answer in a rude or disrespectful way by saying hurtful words like “I hate you!”. What you can do is take away his TV time or PlayStation or whatever thing he likes to do. You can later sit down with him and explain that he didn’t have to like what you decided and that it was okay to be angry with you, BUT it was not okay to show that kind of behavior.

Here are 5 rules that will help you handle disrespect:

1. Don’t take it personally. It might be hard, but don’t take your child’s words personally. If they talk to you in a way you don’t like then you can easily say “Don’t talk to me that way, I don’t like it,” and turn away. Tell them the behavior is wrong and leave.

2. Be prepared. You should know that some disrespectful behavior is normal so be prepared for it. Remember, you don’t have to attend every fight—or power struggle—your child invites you to.

3. Avoid power struggles at all costs.  If your child has previously pulled you into a fight, then he’s definitely doing it again the next time. But next time know how to react so plan ahead. One solution might be to give a consequence for his/her behavior and then give it time to discuss the wrong behavior.

4. Be determined.  It’s hard at first, but it’s really rewarding when things begin to change. Decide today that you are going to start doing things differently.

5. Be a Teacher and Coach. A parent’s role is to teach their child how to behave and how to be respectful. The three crucial roles for you to play as a parent are Teacher, Coach and Limit Setter.

Remember, the goal is for kids to be able to function in the real world and go on to be responsible adults who can live on their own. We basically want all the things for our kids that our parents wanted for us: to be financially and emotionally able to function successfully on their own.