Why is it good to let a child out of tears?

When children have fury, parents often try to stop screaming as soon as possible, but experts say it's good to put out negative emotions

A child screaming on the floor of the shop, diving next to the slide or does not want to get up from the floor on the bus. Everyone experienced it. And those who thought that they were unprofitable children quickly corrected themselves when they themselves experienced the first tantrum.

Fog outbursts are common in young children, and they are even an important part of the emotional and psychological health of the child. Little children do not know how to cope with emotions, and that usually ends in a close fight of parents with 15 kilos of pure anger.

Instinctive is the reaction of each parent to silence the child and interrupt the outburst, but experts say that it is necessary to do the opposite. It is better for a child to emit negative emotions than to keep them in. Although it is not easy for parents to understand or tolerate it, the child needs to "do" a tantrum to relieve stress, negative emotions, and then pursue normal activities.

Relieving stress through crying

"Fears of anger in small children can arise for various reasons: if it cannot fit the dice as it is imagined, or the mother insists that the child eat that very spoon, clean the toys or wear a blue shirt", explains the pediatrician Dr. Giovana Armano.

He stresses so stress relief through crying is just fine. Human tears contain cortisol, a stress hormone, and when a baby cries, it literally throws stress out of the body. After crying, the closeness of the closest ones is followed, which is very important for the child, and after the outburst of rage, the child is usually in a better mood.

"Some psychologists regard the outburst of anger and crying as a form of learning because the child is aware of the limits to which he can go, what is allowed and what is not. This is important for development, "explains Dr. Armano. The next benefit of tantrum is a better night's sleep. Namely, experts believe that the child will sleep better if the stress does not accumulate during the day, but is expelled.

If the child has not expressed it, he can experience accumulated negative emotions during the night, so his sleep is interrupted and may have nightmares.

Be determined and consistent when you speak to a child 'No'

A child has anger attacks when he hears "no"? That's good! Every time you say "no" to the child, you set clear limits on what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior. It is logical that a child will try to cry and pour out the anger of what he wants, but the parent must be determined and, more importantly, consistent. In other words - in every situation, react equally.

"It is not good that at the same time the parent sometimes does not respond at all and sometimes punishes, depending on the mood. The child will not learn what is good and what is not, "says Dr. Armano.

Over time, with the help of parents, they will learn to control emotions. Until this happens, the parent must try to calm the child with a good word or embrace, but not violently because anger could deepen. A child will feel safe to express emotions and gain comfort.

The golden rules for children's fall

Renowned pediatrician Dr. Mirjana Kolarek Karakas explains what parents cannot do during the child's fury. As she remarks, the child must be allowed to express anger, but we must set boundaries.

Do not yell at the child - no effect

Do not laugh at them - you downplay their feelings

Do not imitate them and do not mock them - they adopt a pattern of mockery to other children

Do not punish them - Better push them to show feelings later in life

Do not offer a reward to stop - to learn how to manipulate others.